Wednesday, April 26, 2017

A Harry Potter Birthday Party

Note the current date: April 26, 2017 and I'm just now writing a post about Charlie's birthday party.  And for those of you who might not know, Charlie's birthday is Februrary 28th.  At this point, I'd also like to remind you that we did have good intentions of celebrating Charlie's birthday the weekend after his birthday but, we came down with the great stomach flu of 2017 and needed to postpone.  March is a crazy whirlwind for some reason so we picked Easter weekend as our make-up date.  The same people were invited and all was looking good until Charlie came down with influenza B the week before his party.  We were all bummed because it was looking like the party was a no-go again, but we miraculously were able to pull it off-- even if most of our guests weren't able to make it.

I had been so excited to give Charlie this Harry Potter birthday-- especially back in February.  We had been reading the first HP book (Charlie received the illustrated version for Christmas) and he was so submerged in everything Harry Potter.  As soon as we turned the last page, he was asking when we could read book #2-- which we began reading only a few weeks later.  But somewhere between finishing book #2 and Easter, the magic and excitement of the whole birthday party theme had worn off a little.  So when it looked like the majority of our guests could not attend and Charlie was still not feeling 100%, it would have been really (incredibly) easy to just pack up the loot and take Charlie to Chuck E. Cheese instead.  If only I hadn't gone to all that work already....

So (in a very selfish way because I had invested so much personal craft time already...) we went ahead and hosted the party.  And honestly, it worked out great and felt more magical than I ever imagined.

(Note: Thanks to the internet and Pinterest, I din't have to come up with a single original thought. Every idea you'll see here was stolen from someone else. )

Pictured L-R:
Books covered in printable book covers with HP glasses resting on top, wands made out of dowels and hot glue, stuffed golden snitch, Hedwig owl (borrowed from our school nurse).

I found this role of brick paper (that is supposed to be used for a photo backdrop) at Hobby Lobby.  With one slice up the middle, it became the perfect Platform 9 3/4 and held up surprisingly well.

Kitchen Great Hall:
Floating candles made with paper towel tubes, hot glue "wax", and battery operated candles.

We divided the party up into "classes".  First class was Herbology so we painted little pots with shiny acrylic paint.  (They are wearing school robes that I made from 3XL tshirts cut and hemmed to look like a robe.)

Anna and Charlie both sported some of Mason's best artwork to date: the lightning bolt scar.

Next class was potions and this was by far the most exciting class.  I had hopes of making some Borax slime and while I had all the ingredients collected and ready to go, it just really sounded like a lot of work to me that morning.  So I nixed it and told the kids we could make it some afternoon-- but I'm secretly hoping they forget about it.  

For potions, I collected a bunch of old bottles and tubes.  The Target dollar spot just so happened to be selling these funky colored bottles in February which were perfect.  I bought the mini cauldrons on Amazon and each student had three at their station.  We poured different colored potions (vinegar with food coloring) into the cauldrons and used a dropper to drop the colors onto the powdered Unicorn horns (baking soda).  The kids could have played with this stuff all day and when Keira took things to the next level by adding glitter, we about lost our cool because, well, it was just soooo cool.

After Potions class, Coach Mason rallied the troops for a rousing game of Quidditch.  We hung two hula-hoops up at either end of the basement and used different sized balls to play the game.  As Charlie and Keira tried to toss the ball through the hoops, Anna was in charge of the Bludgers and threw random balls at Charlie and Keira.  Meanwhile, Mason kept the golden snitch in his pocket until the last minute when he would let it loose and toss it in the air.  Of course, the person who catches the snitch is the winner so this was incredibly competitive. 

And lastly, the lightning scar cupcakes, homemade by me and Betty Crocker Moist herself.  I'm telling you, I went all out on this birthday party!  

Whew!  Not quite two months late but better than never.  So glad we actually went for it-- magic happens when you let it.

Thursday, April 20, 2017

I went for a walk the other day... the rain.

My to-do list was miles long, our countertops were littered with construction paper projects and mail and breakfast dishes, thoughts were swirling around in my brain, and my email inbox was nearing a record high. And being inside was making me feel trapped-- like I just needed to get out.  Except, it was raining, as it's been doing here for the past few weeks.  I stepped outside and stood in the very center of our gazebo, in a tiny radius of a spot that hadn't been touched by the gentle spring rain. I wondered aloud why it had to be raining (again) when this little voice piped into my head: Just go. Just go. Just go. And for once, I listened to that little voice.

I grabbed my jacket, an umbrella, and my rain boots and headed out to the trail.  The limestone surface was soft and saturated with rain, and each step felt like sinking into fresh bread dough.  I took a quick picture, silenced my phone, and vowed not to touch it unless I came across something extraordinary.

As I walked in silence, the cadence of my footsteps became mesmerizing.  Sheltered under the nylon pansy-print of my umbrella, I kept my eyes down, focusing only on the trail under my feet, letting my ears guide them.  Within a matter of seconds, it became a walking meditation of sorts.  With only my ears, I noticed birds chirping in the trees and bushes, small animals skittering into the brush as I approached, and worms lazily creeping along the trail-- as if intentionally baiting themselves for someone's soon-to-be afternoon snack.  I felt the breeze that carried a rogue midst of raindrops under my umbrella, and smelled the rain drenched air.

Before long, I was soaked from the waist down and my yoga pants clung to my legs.  At that moment, I realized I was chilly and as you know, I'm not a fan of being cold.  My brain told my feet to turn the rain boots around and I headed back to the van.  I put the umbrella away and let the drizzly rain soak me to the bone. In some weird way, it actually felt good.  My inner hippie felt so connected to the Earth at that moment-- it was peaceful but not quiet, calm but very awake, cold but still warm. I was moving yet my boots stuck to the Earth and time seemed to be perfectly synched to where I needed it to be.

I was almost back to the van when I glanced up and noticed a bird's nest.  It was built into the lower branches of a small tree which made it possible for me to inspect it closely.  The nest was the prettiest one I'd ever seen and the bottom edge had been made with remnants of Easter grass or packing paper. Two stiff corn husks lined the back of the nest-- almost giving it a little privacy wall because you know how those song birds like their privacy.   As I stepped closer, carefully inspecting the little nest, I half expected to find a tiny sign dangling from the rim of the branch reading, "Please Wipe Your Tweet!" 

Obviously, the rational part of me knows that birds aren't really going to hang signs up outside their nests (because duh, how would they hold the Sharpie to create it?).  But, is it possible that this bird might have a little creative flair?  A little push to be different?  A little something tugging at their heart to do something, make something, create something?  Do they have a little voice?  Did this bird listen to that tiny voice?  The one that said, that garbage over there sure would look fine woven into your nest!  The same voice that whispered, Just Go to me?

Did the bird build this nest hoping for attention? For the praise from admirers? Or did building this nest, with these creative fibers make that bird come alive?  Did she feel happier and connected to herself and the tree giving her shelter in the same way that walking outside in the rain made me feel happier?  (I'd like to point out that yes, I realize that perhaps the bird was just scavenging for items to build a nest but I'm enjoying these avian philosophical questions.)  To me, I'd like to believe that eccentric mama bird had decided to spruce things up just a bit for spring-- like most of us are ready to do-- replace the grey curtains with ones containing a splashy hibiscus print, bust out the pink flamingos and inflatable palm trees and decorate the yard, crack open the glow necklaces and scream, "IT'S SPRING!" Find something that helps us feel awake and alive and present.

For me, I've always felt these nudges.  Little whispers from the universe that urge me to get out. To try new things and venture out, even when the metaphorical rain is falling. But, I usually stop short.  I give in to fear and uncertainty, I don't fully let go.  I haven't quite stepped out into the rain. But this walk? The one where I would have missed this extrordinary bird's nest had I not stepped out into the rain?  This walk has me re-thinking things and hearing that voice again....Just go. Just go. Just go.

And what about you? The next time that little voice speaks to you, encouraging you to walk in the rain or dance around your living room or sign up for a pottery class or write that book or build a nest out of pretty paper?  Will you think twice?

Thursday, April 13, 2017

Teach Your Kid to Roller Skate

My grandparents' house had the longest hallway of anyone I knew.  I'm pretty sure the floor was cork, laid out in perfect 8 inch squares, all the way down.  A pocket door separated the hallway from a carpeted dining room, where my grownups would sip multiple pots of coffee and pick their way through donuts on Sunday mornings.  Liz and I participated in the donut ritual every week, but were often (always) shooed out of the dining room so the grown ups could 'visit'.  We knew things were especially juicy when the pocket door would gently slide shut so we couldn't piece together the classified information they were discussing ("little ears are listening" my mother would often chide).

So we were banished to the hallway and the adjoining rooms-- which there were a-plenty.  We played in Grandpa's basement-- which held more treasures than a sunken pirate ship, we watched Nickelodeon  in the back room, we spritzed Grandma's perfume, draped her jewelry around our shoulders, and we scoured the floor of Grandpa's closet for so-much-loose-change.  And every once in awhile, Grandpa's roller skates would be sitting out-- begging to be played with and put to use in that long, long hallway.

Neither my sister nor I ever owned a pair of skates.  We're not sure why, exactly... because I assume that if we really truly madly deeply wanted roller skates, my parents would have purchased them for us.  However, my parents usually (still) bought things for an occasion (Read: Christmas and birthdays. And maybe Easter).  And since Liz and I both have winter birthdays, I'm guessing we never truly madly deeply wanted roller skates (or even had them in mind) when our birthdays rolled around.  Whatever the reason, we just never had them and for obvious reasons, never learned how to skate.

So fast forward to 1989, when I was in sixth grade and miraculously invited to Morgan Nothwehr's birthday party (it was an obligatory invite--only because she was friends with Kelly and I had invited her to my party b/c I thought she was super pretty from afar).  My ego was flying high with one small detail-- this party was a roller skating party.  So somehow, in the past five years, everyone around me had learned to skate and aside from my clunky trips down Grandpa's hallway, I....hadn't.  But, I was eager to learn (and even more eager to fit in to this new group of friends) so I went to the party.

I vividly remember Morgan's mom and my new friends awkwardly holding my arms as my skinny legs splayed out in all directions, the heavy roller skates foreign on my feet.  Fortunately, I don't remember feeling embarrassed, but I do remember feeling a little upset-- that aside from those few trips down the hallway in Grandpa's skates, I somehow missed out on learning what everyone else had apparently been privy to.  Let's not forget that in the late 80's/ early 90's  skating rinks made a huge comeback and for the next three years, I'd be expected to Aqua Net the hell out of my bangs and skate away my Friday and Saturday nights if I wanted to maintain any social dignity.  Which is exactly what I intended to do.

And while I was bound and determined to learn how to skate well enough, I never really learned.  And I never forgot this whole thing.  Definitely not disgruntled about it, but I made a vow then and there, under the sparkly disco ball lights while slow-skating to Michael Bolton (OMG-I held Kevin Oestenstad's hand!) that when I was a grownup, my kids would know how read, write, and roller skate.

So here we are, in the future.  (One fourth grader once told me while playing MASH, "But Miss Bomgaars, you can't play-- because you're already IN the future!") And it's time for my kid to learn how to roller-skate.  Last summer, the opportunity presented itself while we were at Mindy's when her girls lugged out their skates and performed routines around her living room.  Charlie wasn't convinced until he saw Harry give it a try-- and then his fire was ignited.  He laced up the skates and gave it a go-- only to be super disappointed by how difficult it was.  But he saw the fun potential and later asked for a pair of skates and signed up for Roller Skating class at the Y.

I was so proud of him-- a six year old, ready and brave enough to learn something new.  But on the first day of his roller skating class, things fell apart.  As we walked over to his class, his eyes filled with tears.  He looked up at me and asked, "Do I have to go?"  Of course, we were on the playground blacktop after school, with plenty of moms and kids within earshot.  I felt like I was on display-- like I was supposed to somehow give the right answer-- but what was the right answer? Let him off the hook and tell Charlie that no, he did not have to go? Force him to go and do more harm?  ("My mother, your grandmother,  forced me to learn how to roller skate! I've been traumatized ever since!")

In the end, I knelt down and looked him in the eye.
"Charlie, you do not need to love roller skating, or even like it.  But you signed up for this and you do need to try it.  So today, we're going to go in to that gym and put on your knee pads and elbow pads and wrist guards.  We're going to strap on your helmet (which all the kids think is super cool, by the way) and lace up your skates.  And once you have all that protective gear on, you can sit and watch kids roller skate the entire time.  You don't have to even stand up if you don't want to.  But you're not going to quit before you even start.  I'll walk in with you and stay by your side as long as you want me there. Promise."  He looked up at me and slipped his hand into mine-- silently agreeing to these terms.

That day, Charlie surprised me by not sitting on the chair.  In fact, he never even sat down.  He walked in and saw his peers clumsily flailing around, some whizzing by, others skate-stepping their way around the gym.  They skated and fell and chased and laughed, giving Charlie a much better lesson than I ever could: this could possibly be fun.  And in the end, he skated the entire time-- even giving me permission to leave for a bit.  When Anna and I came back to pick him up just minutes later, he was on two feet--with wheels.  And the look on his face was priceless.  At that moment, I saw pride and happiness that only comes with overcoming something that is fearful or scary.  And at that moment, I realized that maybe all these years it wasn't really about the roller skating but something more.  Maybe it's about noticing when your kids are interested in and wiling to try something new.  Maybe it's about challenging them to do things that push them out of their comfort zone-- and standing by as they stumble and possibly fall.  Maybe it's about not just saying you believe in them, but actually giving them the chance and the challenge to show that you do. Perhaps it's giving them space to try, but also providing them with boundaries that protect.

Then again, maybe it really is all about the roller skating.

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